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Some people think solely about themselves, others mostly about themselves and others never about themselves. Like most things in life a little balance is a good thing. Sadly certain people and even organisations expect a lot or else regard one as unworthy or not reaching their standard. This takes it’s toll on the giver/doer and has a huge cost. Worn out by constant doing for others they sometimes even give up despairing of ever being “GOOD ENOUGH” or “DOING ENOUGH TO PLEASE”  “I should do more…”

I have found, as I have become older and a little wiser, that some people just take and if you are a giver by nature you need to take the difficult step for most givers of putting strong boundaries in place.

It is good to give but it is necessary to remember to also give to yourself and this requires taking time for yourself to do the things that give you pleasure.

A slot in your diary for “ME TIME” is vital especially for busy people.

Taking time to replenish and nurture yourself is not selfish and you must never fell guilty or that you are not doing what you should because by taking time out regularly you will find you  are wiser about what ,when and how to give in a way that is beneficial to all involved. You will also develop a greater ability to give lovingly and without strings, so by having compassion on yourself, stepping back and having some me time, you are really helping others as well.

In all things let there be balance in you life is a lesson I have had to learn the hard way.

I hope it is something you already do, if not don’t wait for sickness to make you take time out, start planning changes and enjoy the journey.

Namaste Brita

 

 

 

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A NEW YEAR BEGINS.

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This is my first post for 2014 and I send you all the old Irish Blessing.

May a rainbow run beside you in a sky that’s always blue,

And may happiness fill your heart each day your whole life through.

We have just returned from holidays and as I reflect on the wonderful times shared with our beautiful friends and family I feel such joy and gratitude that they are there, no matter what, with so much unconditional love and never judging my stumbling efforts to navigate life’s path. I saw a wonderful poster the other day it said

” Life under construction. Thank you for your patience!”

The friends I cherish have patience in abundance and I love them dearly.

I finally had some time to catch up on reading and as always have learned so much from reading of other peoples lives and experiences. How different, yet how similar all our lives are and how true today are the past words of great thinkers who wrote of life’s lessons, many years ago.

Some that resonated deeply with me were:-

“Be content with what you have,

rejoice in the way things are.

When you realise there is nothing lacking,

the whole world belongs to you.   Lao Tzu

And this one may be appropriate to the old year as well as to each day…

“Finish each day and be done with it,

You have done what you could.

Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in,

forget them as soon as you can.

Tomorrow is a new day,

you shall begin it well and serenely.”   Ralph Waldo Emerson.

There are no new lessons in life, just new people rediscovering the old ones. We have so much to learn. My deepest thanks goes out to all who share their lives, experiences and insights, both in print and here on their wonderful blogs.

A final thought,

“We are stronger in the places we’ve been broken.”   Ernest Hemingway.

Have a most blessed day.

Namaste.

Amazing photo of Samuel before he was born thanking the doctor for saving his life!

An Amazing Moment Before Life!

This picture is a 21 week-old unborn baby named Samuel Alexander Armas, who is being operated on by a surgeon named Joseph Bruner.
The baby was diagnosed with Spina Bifida and would not survive if removed from his mother’s womb. Little Samuel’s mother, Julie Armas is an obstetrics nurse in Atlanta, Georgia, USA. She knew of Dr.Bruner’s remarkable surgical procedure. Practicing at Vanderbilt University Medical Centre in Nashville, he performs these special operations while the baby is still in the womb. During the procedure, the doctor removes the uterus via C-section and makes a small incision to operate on the baby. As Dr.Bruner completed the surgery on Samuel, the little guy reached out his tiny but fully developed hand through the incision and firmly grasped the surgeons finger. Dr.Bruner was reported as saying that when his finger was clasped it was the most emotional moment of his life and that for an instant during the procedure he was just frozen, totally immobile. The photograph captures this amazing event. The editor titled the picture “Hand of Hope.” The text explaining the picture begins,”The tiny hand of 21-week old fetus Samuel Alexander Armas emerges from the mother’s uterus to grasp the finger of Dr. Joseph Bruner as if thanking the doctor for the gift of life.” Little Samuel’s mother said they “wept for days” when they saw the picture. She said, “The photo reminds us pregnancy isn’t about disability or illness, it’s about a little person.” Samuel was born in perfect health and the operation and the operation was 100 percent successful.
To see a life journey begin in this amazing way reminded me of how many truly beautiful people in this world work daily to provide miracles that make life possible. People like doctors, nurses, theatre staff, researchers and don’t forget the cleaners who keep the germs at bay, how often we only think of them when an urgent need touches our own life. So many people work hard daily to make this world a healthier, happier, more caring place for others less fortunate than themselves. Let’s focus on them and acknowledge their gift rather than focusing on all the negatives the media usually focus on and let’s say a special prayer for them and like them each do our job in life, what ever it is, to add to the lives of others, focusing on them and not ourselves. If we do this simple task we can all enrich the journey for everyone and make this world an even more loving, caring, beautiful place.

Feeling Truly Supported.

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LOVE NEVER DIES

THOSE PASSED OVER

SUPPORT US

UNSEEN

DAILY

NO MATTER WHAT

WE DO

SAY

OR

HOW WE FEEL

WE ARE ALL LOVED

COMPLETELY

FOREVER

LOVE NEVER DIES.

Today I have the flu. It is a beautiful day. The sun is out, the birds singing and I have been forced to stop and rest.

Sometimes I think we forget to stop and just be. While resting I have looked at the other sites of people who are following mine and I have learnt so much. Among them were true jewels, not selling anything but spreading light, love and wisdom. I have put a couple on my site. The one Hand in Hand inspired my poem above, it brought to mind my family now in spirit and awareness brought them close. There is no real separation, they have just passed through a beautiful door into spirit. I will pass through that doorway, again, just as I did when I was born and the experience I know will be just as wonderful. The process may look a bit rough  ( It usually is and I am constantly  amazed at how strong women are!), but then the smile on the face of a mother,  when she first gazes in love and awe at her baby, says it all.

My husband is also supporting me. The papers are here with a cup of tea  and he is off to buy something for dinner that we don’t need to cook. While my body feels awful, my spirit has never felt better. Many thanks to all both seen and unseen who are making my day!

Such a lovely day even the kangaroos are up and about!

I am loving just sitting watching everyone enjoying life.

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MORE FRIENDS ENJOYING THE DAY

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WE ARE CALLED HUMANBEINGS

NOT

HUMANDOINGS

I MUST REMEMBER THAT

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Who are my family?

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MY AUNT WITH MY HUSBAND BILL.

I have just come back from visiting my elderly aunt, who has lived by herself since her husbands death many years ago. She is fiercely independent, doesn’t want to go into a retirement home and doesn’t want to be a burden on anyone. These days  she is struggling with the day to day tasks of getting about. It takes me two days to drive down to see her, but she won’t come and live with us or move closer. She says she doesn’t want to live in the country but I suspect she doesn’t want to be a burden on my husband and I and try as I do to convince her she would be a gift not a burden she won’t budge. (There is a lesson for all of us here on the importance of not being too independent, for we could all benefit others by accepting our interdependence.)  I respect her greatly so for the time being this means that  I can’t see her as often as I would like but we phone her every night and the love we share is beautiful. I share  this beautiful ladies love with a man I barely know his name is Alex, a hard working Maori man, who  lives in the same block of units. He came to Australia from New Zealand many years ago, his mum, like mine has passed on and he has adopted my aunt. He drops in the daily paper on his way home from work,  fixes the television just about nightly and cooks extra dinner so he can give her some if she needs it. Alex is now family to me, I love him dearly. I really don’t know how I would sleep without knowing he is down there if she needs help. When we can’t contact her on the phone we ring his mobile and he goes and checks she is alright. He is very much the loving son and as she is like a mum to me he has become my brother. My aunt has two daughters, one lives about two hours further north of me the other lives less than an hour away from my aunt, neither visit or regularly ring, they are missing out on so much and I feel sorry that they are but I am so glad that a man from another country has the awareness that it is by giving unconditional love that we are loved and become true family to each other. We are all related but we choose how we relate and I sometimes feel that in Australia we have lost our culture of connectedness. Many are too busy with worldly business stuff and acquiring things that are impermanent and sadly miss out on life’s greatest joy, loving and being loved. Maori culture seems to know more about love and the true meaning of family. My husband today saw a young girl curled up and shivering in a bitterly cold bus shelter. He didn’t simply say poor thing and walk on by. He stopped and was able to help her by buying her a warm coat, a meat pie and making sure she had the bus fare to get her to her sisters. It cost him $50 but as he said to me if it was one of my kids I would want someone to help them. It is the old bible rule “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you!” I love my husband and I admire the fact that from a hard life he has learnt compassion. Each day we are given so many opportunities to enrich our lives with true joy, the joy of giving. It may just be a smile , a friendly word, a recognition of the person serving you at the supermarket check out as a real person doing a tiring repetitive job or someone who just looks like they could do with a little help but it is the small things that can connect us a and make us fee valued in a big busy world. Stop being busy for just a moment, break down the barrier and connect! You have nothing to lose, even if the person doesn’t smile back they will notice and perhaps smile at another and you will have lost nothing but you will gain joy, joy in knowing you care and are doing all you can to make this world a more caring, loving place. Joy grows it isn’t fleeting like happiness, happiness is an extreme as is unhappiness there is a lot to be said for contentment and the quiet inner joy that comes from connectedness. It is this that enriches us and allows us to keep on giving. Enjoy the journey and the love fellow travellers share today.