Some people think solely about themselves, others mostly about themselves and others never about themselves. Like most things in life a little balance is a good thing. Sadly certain people and even organisations expect a lot or else regard one as unworthy or not reaching their standard. This takes it’s toll on the giver/doer and has a huge cost. Worn out by constant doing for others they sometimes even give up despairing of ever being “GOOD ENOUGH” or “DOING ENOUGH TO PLEASE” “I should do more…”
I have found, as I have become older and a little wiser, that some people just take and if you are a giver by nature you need to take the difficult step for most givers of putting strong boundaries in place.
It is good to give but it is necessary to remember to also give to yourself and this requires taking time for yourself to do the things that give you pleasure.
A slot in your diary for “ME TIME” is vital especially for busy people.
Taking time to replenish and nurture yourself is not selfish and you must never fell guilty or that you are not doing what you should because by taking time out regularly you will find you are wiser about what ,when and how to give in a way that is beneficial to all involved. You will also develop a greater ability to give lovingly and without strings, so by having compassion on yourself, stepping back and having some me time, you are really helping others as well.
In all things let there be balance in you life is a lesson I have had to learn the hard way.
I hope it is something you already do, if not don’t wait for sickness to make you take time out, start planning changes and enjoy the journey.
Each day brings new beauty into our lives, sometimes in ways so subtle that we fail to catch it. I have just had the privilege of sharing with a beautiful lady who after many years of marriage was waiting for her husband to pass into the spirit world. She was sharing with me how lucky she was to have such a loving husband and told me that her son had said” I have never seen or experienced anywhere else the tremendous love you two have.” She said his comment embarrassed her a little, as his wife was there, so she pointed out to them that this was because they were too young. “Love grows,” she said ” With time and with greater knowledge of each other, working on respect and increasing wisdom you learn love is deeper than you ever dreamed. It grows to encompass friendship, contentment, true joy and the memories of shared experiences both good and not so good. After many years it is the friendship and knowing you are always there for each other that really matters.” Such wisdom! What a wonderful gift she had given. I do so hope he was able to grasp it tightly with both hands and never let it go. It was a great reminder for me that until ego fades and allows us to find joy in another’s joy we can never hope to experience love deeply. It is in giving we receive. Namaste.
(I would appreciate if someone can let me know who produced this beautiful poster so I can acknowledge them)
Today some are looking longingly to the skies praying for rain to give them a hope of saving their farms.
Others stare up at the approaching clouds in fear, having just seen thousands swept away and whole towns destroyed.
Same day, different countries but one overriding need,
the need for compassion from those around them, but who are seemingly blind to their need,
to reach out a helping hand.
We are all so vulnerable in the face of natures mighty power and life so fragile.
The needs of mankind seem overwhelming and feeling helpless it often seems easier turn away and busy ourselves with other more manageable tasks.
I, too, often feel overwhelmed,
I have no monetary wealth to give out as a helping hand
BUT I DO HAVE
A minute to listen to those I know who are struggling, a warm hug of understanding, a family heal table to share and a prayer I can say each and every day…
“May all sentient beings have happiness and the cause of happiness.
May all sentient beings be free of suffering and the cause of suffering.
May all sentient beings live in peace and harmony and have their needs met.”
It is a based a Buddhist prayer and it always reminds me of how we are all connected in this world.
We all have common needs, hopes and fears and one language-
the language of love and compassion ,
a language that we all understand.
Don’t turn away, you can help, just say a little prayer
and make time to be there for others.
Love and Compassion are powerful beyond belief.
Love conquers all, it sees no differences and knows only total acceptance. We see it most often between animals, frequently between animals and human beings but only occasionally between humans and humans, We have so much to learn from animals