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A Blessing To Hold Tight Forever!

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Each day brings new beauty into our lives, sometimes in ways so subtle that we fail to catch it. I have just had the privilege of sharing with a beautiful lady who after many years of marriage was waiting for her husband to pass into the spirit world. She was sharing with me how lucky she was to have such a loving husband and told me that her son had said” I have never seen or experienced anywhere else the tremendous love you two have.” She said his comment embarrassed her a little, as his wife was there, so she pointed out to them that this was because they were too young. “Love grows,” she said ” With time and with greater knowledge of each other, working on respect and increasing wisdom you learn love is deeper than you ever dreamed. It grows to encompass friendship, contentment, true joy and the memories of shared experiences both good and not so good. After many years it is the friendship and knowing you are always there for each other that really matters.” Such wisdom! What a wonderful gift she had given. I do so hope he was able to grasp it tightly with both hands and never let it go. It was a great reminder for me that until ego fades and allows us to find joy in another’s joy we can never hope to experience love deeply. It is in giving we receive. Namaste.

  (I would appreciate if someone can let me know who produced this beautiful poster so I can acknowledge them)

Forgiveness

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Everyone of us makes mistakes, we are after all human. Wise people learn from their mistakes and quickly forgive the mistakes of both themselves and others, as they know that to not forgive them poisons their own inner happiness.

We cannot truly judge mistakes and this is one reason why Jesus told us not to judge others unless we are willing to be judged.

Sadly some people deliberately go against this teaching and try to impose guilt and shame onto others or in some cases themselves. They forget that making a mistake does not make you a bad person and use labels like “sinner”.  The word that sin comes from is actually an ancient archery term for “missing the mark”.  When the person shooting the arrow missed the target it was their signal to  realign and try again. It is sad and wrong that many today use the word as a label of condemnation.

We are all works in progress and it would be a much happier world if we all had  signs on us that read ” This person is currently being developed, thank you for your patience.” I know, this all sounds very simplistic. When we are hurt  it seems natural to react impulsively with anger, blame and then to sometimes impose guilt and shame on each other yet in the process of doing this we destroy relationships, sometimes forever and only increase the suffering, prolonging it and creating hell for all involved including the innocent bystanders who are frequently one’s children.

A deep sense of guilt has destroyed so many lives. People feel unworthy of forgiveness. Yet the message of Jesus in the bible is one of love and forgiveness. If he can forgive us, surely we too can forgive. It sounds easy, often it is far from that but it is worth the effort. It allows you to move on, to grow and to teach others from a place of new understanding. It can lead to new awareness and empathy and give insight into how it feels to walk in another’s shoes. It can also renew and create greater love, caring and acceptance.

A very old prayer always comes to me when I face these tough times, it says…

GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS,

I CANNOT CHANGE.

COURAGE TO CHANGE,

THE THINGS I CAN

AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.

I would like to add…

And the ability to forgive and move on TO DO BETTER NEXT TIME!

NAMASTE!

Feeling Truly Supported.

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LOVE NEVER DIES

THOSE PASSED OVER

SUPPORT US

UNSEEN

DAILY

NO MATTER WHAT

WE DO

SAY

OR

HOW WE FEEL

WE ARE ALL LOVED

COMPLETELY

FOREVER

LOVE NEVER DIES.

Today I have the flu. It is a beautiful day. The sun is out, the birds singing and I have been forced to stop and rest.

Sometimes I think we forget to stop and just be. While resting I have looked at the other sites of people who are following mine and I have learnt so much. Among them were true jewels, not selling anything but spreading light, love and wisdom. I have put a couple on my site. The one Hand in Hand inspired my poem above, it brought to mind my family now in spirit and awareness brought them close. There is no real separation, they have just passed through a beautiful door into spirit. I will pass through that doorway, again, just as I did when I was born and the experience I know will be just as wonderful. The process may look a bit rough  ( It usually is and I am constantly  amazed at how strong women are!), but then the smile on the face of a mother,  when she first gazes in love and awe at her baby, says it all.

My husband is also supporting me. The papers are here with a cup of tea  and he is off to buy something for dinner that we don’t need to cook. While my body feels awful, my spirit has never felt better. Many thanks to all both seen and unseen who are making my day!

Such a lovely day even the kangaroos are up and about!

I am loving just sitting watching everyone enjoying life.

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MORE FRIENDS ENJOYING THE DAY

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WE ARE CALLED HUMANBEINGS

NOT

HUMANDOINGS

I MUST REMEMBER THAT

NAMASTE

Who are my family?

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MY AUNT WITH MY HUSBAND BILL.

I have just come back from visiting my elderly aunt, who has lived by herself since her husbands death many years ago. She is fiercely independent, doesn’t want to go into a retirement home and doesn’t want to be a burden on anyone. These days  she is struggling with the day to day tasks of getting about. It takes me two days to drive down to see her, but she won’t come and live with us or move closer. She says she doesn’t want to live in the country but I suspect she doesn’t want to be a burden on my husband and I and try as I do to convince her she would be a gift not a burden she won’t budge. (There is a lesson for all of us here on the importance of not being too independent, for we could all benefit others by accepting our interdependence.)  I respect her greatly so for the time being this means that  I can’t see her as often as I would like but we phone her every night and the love we share is beautiful. I share  this beautiful ladies love with a man I barely know his name is Alex, a hard working Maori man, who  lives in the same block of units. He came to Australia from New Zealand many years ago, his mum, like mine has passed on and he has adopted my aunt. He drops in the daily paper on his way home from work,  fixes the television just about nightly and cooks extra dinner so he can give her some if she needs it. Alex is now family to me, I love him dearly. I really don’t know how I would sleep without knowing he is down there if she needs help. When we can’t contact her on the phone we ring his mobile and he goes and checks she is alright. He is very much the loving son and as she is like a mum to me he has become my brother. My aunt has two daughters, one lives about two hours further north of me the other lives less than an hour away from my aunt, neither visit or regularly ring, they are missing out on so much and I feel sorry that they are but I am so glad that a man from another country has the awareness that it is by giving unconditional love that we are loved and become true family to each other. We are all related but we choose how we relate and I sometimes feel that in Australia we have lost our culture of connectedness. Many are too busy with worldly business stuff and acquiring things that are impermanent and sadly miss out on life’s greatest joy, loving and being loved. Maori culture seems to know more about love and the true meaning of family. My husband today saw a young girl curled up and shivering in a bitterly cold bus shelter. He didn’t simply say poor thing and walk on by. He stopped and was able to help her by buying her a warm coat, a meat pie and making sure she had the bus fare to get her to her sisters. It cost him $50 but as he said to me if it was one of my kids I would want someone to help them. It is the old bible rule “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you!” I love my husband and I admire the fact that from a hard life he has learnt compassion. Each day we are given so many opportunities to enrich our lives with true joy, the joy of giving. It may just be a smile , a friendly word, a recognition of the person serving you at the supermarket check out as a real person doing a tiring repetitive job or someone who just looks like they could do with a little help but it is the small things that can connect us a and make us fee valued in a big busy world. Stop being busy for just a moment, break down the barrier and connect! You have nothing to lose, even if the person doesn’t smile back they will notice and perhaps smile at another and you will have lost nothing but you will gain joy, joy in knowing you care and are doing all you can to make this world a more caring, loving place. Joy grows it isn’t fleeting like happiness, happiness is an extreme as is unhappiness there is a lot to be said for contentment and the quiet inner joy that comes from connectedness. It is this that enriches us and allows us to keep on giving. Enjoy the journey and the love fellow travellers share today.