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Supported We Hang In There!

 

 

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THIS AMAZING ROCK FORMATION IS CALLED “CHAPEL ROCK. THE TREE YOU SEE ON THE ROCK IS ONLY KEPT ALIVE BY THE ROOT BRIDGE ON THE LEFT.

When times get tough, as they sometimes do, we all need a lifeline, something or someone to help us get through. At present I know a very special lady who is struggling and am sending her lots of prayers and love. Her strength is coming from her family and the many wonderful friends she has made over the years but in the end in the toughest times even more is needed. I have been meeting a lot of people lately who have been doing it tough and it really starts you thinking.

When looking at times when we are alone and no other person can share a path we must walk alone you need a strong inner belief that life is taking you exactly where you are meant to be and that all is unfolding just as it meant to. Then you can settle, find peace and acceptance of the present situation knowing that this too will pass, it is impermanent and as everything does will change.

Often this takes a strong faith!

 “You need a deep well in times of drought!” was how the Dalai Lama put it during his teachings in Melbourne.

This faith doesn’t belong to any culture. He went on to say “If I had been born in Australia I would probably be praying to that nice lady in blue (Meaning Mary the mother of Jesus) His point was that we have different religions because of our birth place, heritage, cultural beliefs and this is not to create barriers between us but to make it easier for us and allow for our differences.

Some find their strength in Christ’s teachings, some in Buddha’s and some in other faiths, the important thing is to find that strength and how to tap into it BEFORE things get tough because then it is easier to hang in and find the inner strength and peace to make the journey easier. 

These tough times often bring amazing blessings! They come to us in many surprising ways but they almost always come to us through the love given out by others. It is a gift we can all give, it costs nothing but a little time to send loving thoughts and in todays tough world we need all the love and compassion that can be given.

If you know someone who is doing it tough and you want to help but don’t know how start by sending them loving thoughts.

If you are doing it tough just open your heart and accept all the love that is being poured out daily by many loving souls who know that everyone has a special unique place in this world and that love unites us all.

 

 

A Blessing Called Bob.

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We have a very special friend called Bob who has been in our lives for many, many years. I would love to post his picture for you  but he would hate it. As his name suggests he seems at first meeting a down to earth, ordinary bloke but perceptions are seldom accurate, Bob is truly amazing!

He, like many, would do anything to help anyone but these days he does stuff everyday to help everyone!

Did I hear you say “Wow!”?

What he does is he gives as well as receives. His gift’s are the priceless treasures that lift your spirit and inspire you and when you get them you immediately tuck them away in your heart for a rainy day when the world looks grim and hope seems a very fragile thing. They don’t cost him a lot, just a kind thought and the click of a mouse for they have been sent as emails to him from all over the world by friends that he has met in his travels. Bob seldom sends stuff about himself and what he’s up to but everyone loves his emails and he sends lots because Bob has always been generous. Each day you receive beautiful picture, jokes, incredible stories and today this one that I just had to share. It said on the bottom

 

“Share this with someone you want blessed.”

I hope you are blessed by it as I was.

Most of all I pray that Bob is blessed for just being Bob!

Namaste Brita.

 

EVERYTHING I NEEDED TO KNOW, I LEARNED FROM NOAH’S ARK.

1. Don’t miss the boat.

2. Remember that we are all in the same boat!

3. Plan ahead. It wasn’t raining when Noah built the Ark.

4. Stay fit. When you’re sixty years old, someone may ask you to do something really big.

5. Don’t listen to critics; just get on with the job that needs to be done.

6. Build your future on high ground.

7. For safety sake travel in pairs.

8. Speed isn’t always an advantage. The snails were on board with the cheetahs.

9. When you’re stressed, float awhile.

10. Remember the Ark was built by amateurs; the Titanic by professionals.

11. No matter what the storm, when you are with God, there is always a rainbow waiting.

 

 

 

When you can’t think straight…MEDITATE!

 

 

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Recently I was really stressed by a situation that involved helping a loved one. A thousand thoughts and emotions flooded through my mind, I simply couldn’t think straight and the harder I tried the more tired and confused I became. Then someone said the magic words “LET GO” to me and I remembered to make time to meditate. In the spaciousness of meditation I was able to view my thoughts and emotions with a totally unbiased attitude. When your attitude changes your whole mind changes, even the nature of your thoughts and emotions change. I simply sat and watched my thoughts drift by like the sky watching clouds pass through it. I noticed love, fear, anxiety and a feeling of wanting to control the situation drift by but didn’t try to grasp them, cling to them or indulge in them. I merely observed that, like the wind, they came and went. In allowing them to flow through my mind while keeping my mind free of afterthoughts and possible solutions I found them quickly settle and from a new detached space I was free to see the reality of the situation. What I could change and what I just needed to let go. It was amazing what a difference it made.

Sogyal Rinpoche  said,

“In the ordinary mind we perceive the stream of thoughts as continuous in reality this is not the case , You will discover for yourself that there is a gap between each thought. When the past thought is past and the future thought has not yet arisen, you will always find a gap in which  Rigpa, the nature of mind is revealed. So the work of meditation is to allow thoughts to slow down, to make that gap more and more apparent.”

Learning to meditate certainly takes a bit of effort but the effort is more than repaid by the peace and clarity you find and yes the situation resolved itself, working out far better for everyone concerned, than I could ever have dreamed of.

Namaste!

 

 

 

Forgiveness

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Everyone of us makes mistakes, we are after all human. Wise people learn from their mistakes and quickly forgive the mistakes of both themselves and others, as they know that to not forgive them poisons their own inner happiness.

We cannot truly judge mistakes and this is one reason why Jesus told us not to judge others unless we are willing to be judged.

Sadly some people deliberately go against this teaching and try to impose guilt and shame onto others or in some cases themselves. They forget that making a mistake does not make you a bad person and use labels like “sinner”.  The word that sin comes from is actually an ancient archery term for “missing the mark”.  When the person shooting the arrow missed the target it was their signal to  realign and try again. It is sad and wrong that many today use the word as a label of condemnation.

We are all works in progress and it would be a much happier world if we all had  signs on us that read ” This person is currently being developed, thank you for your patience.” I know, this all sounds very simplistic. When we are hurt  it seems natural to react impulsively with anger, blame and then to sometimes impose guilt and shame on each other yet in the process of doing this we destroy relationships, sometimes forever and only increase the suffering, prolonging it and creating hell for all involved including the innocent bystanders who are frequently one’s children.

A deep sense of guilt has destroyed so many lives. People feel unworthy of forgiveness. Yet the message of Jesus in the bible is one of love and forgiveness. If he can forgive us, surely we too can forgive. It sounds easy, often it is far from that but it is worth the effort. It allows you to move on, to grow and to teach others from a place of new understanding. It can lead to new awareness and empathy and give insight into how it feels to walk in another’s shoes. It can also renew and create greater love, caring and acceptance.

A very old prayer always comes to me when I face these tough times, it says…

GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS,

I CANNOT CHANGE.

COURAGE TO CHANGE,

THE THINGS I CAN

AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.

I would like to add…

And the ability to forgive and move on TO DO BETTER NEXT TIME!

NAMASTE!

Seeing The Path Of Life.

Seeing The Path Of Life.

In this first picture it is hard to see the gateway just ahead and moving forward looks a little difficult. It is hard to know what lies beyond the fog. In the next picture a change of perspective and allowing time for the fog to clear makes the way ahead easier to see,

Who are my family?

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MY AUNT WITH MY HUSBAND BILL.

I have just come back from visiting my elderly aunt, who has lived by herself since her husbands death many years ago. She is fiercely independent, doesn’t want to go into a retirement home and doesn’t want to be a burden on anyone. These days  she is struggling with the day to day tasks of getting about. It takes me two days to drive down to see her, but she won’t come and live with us or move closer. She says she doesn’t want to live in the country but I suspect she doesn’t want to be a burden on my husband and I and try as I do to convince her she would be a gift not a burden she won’t budge. (There is a lesson for all of us here on the importance of not being too independent, for we could all benefit others by accepting our interdependence.)  I respect her greatly so for the time being this means that  I can’t see her as often as I would like but we phone her every night and the love we share is beautiful. I share  this beautiful ladies love with a man I barely know his name is Alex, a hard working Maori man, who  lives in the same block of units. He came to Australia from New Zealand many years ago, his mum, like mine has passed on and he has adopted my aunt. He drops in the daily paper on his way home from work,  fixes the television just about nightly and cooks extra dinner so he can give her some if she needs it. Alex is now family to me, I love him dearly. I really don’t know how I would sleep without knowing he is down there if she needs help. When we can’t contact her on the phone we ring his mobile and he goes and checks she is alright. He is very much the loving son and as she is like a mum to me he has become my brother. My aunt has two daughters, one lives about two hours further north of me the other lives less than an hour away from my aunt, neither visit or regularly ring, they are missing out on so much and I feel sorry that they are but I am so glad that a man from another country has the awareness that it is by giving unconditional love that we are loved and become true family to each other. We are all related but we choose how we relate and I sometimes feel that in Australia we have lost our culture of connectedness. Many are too busy with worldly business stuff and acquiring things that are impermanent and sadly miss out on life’s greatest joy, loving and being loved. Maori culture seems to know more about love and the true meaning of family. My husband today saw a young girl curled up and shivering in a bitterly cold bus shelter. He didn’t simply say poor thing and walk on by. He stopped and was able to help her by buying her a warm coat, a meat pie and making sure she had the bus fare to get her to her sisters. It cost him $50 but as he said to me if it was one of my kids I would want someone to help them. It is the old bible rule “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you!” I love my husband and I admire the fact that from a hard life he has learnt compassion. Each day we are given so many opportunities to enrich our lives with true joy, the joy of giving. It may just be a smile , a friendly word, a recognition of the person serving you at the supermarket check out as a real person doing a tiring repetitive job or someone who just looks like they could do with a little help but it is the small things that can connect us a and make us fee valued in a big busy world. Stop being busy for just a moment, break down the barrier and connect! You have nothing to lose, even if the person doesn’t smile back they will notice and perhaps smile at another and you will have lost nothing but you will gain joy, joy in knowing you care and are doing all you can to make this world a more caring, loving place. Joy grows it isn’t fleeting like happiness, happiness is an extreme as is unhappiness there is a lot to be said for contentment and the quiet inner joy that comes from connectedness. It is this that enriches us and allows us to keep on giving. Enjoy the journey and the love fellow travellers share today.